Follow Your Heart
So many of the people I coach are seeking clarity about what their "purpose" is...what they're here to do....and as is often the case it's staring them right in the face, but they don't recognize it because they judge it as 'what's wrong with them' i.e. how they're different, don't belong, are inadequate, or not 'living up to their potential' in the way they think should be.
So they're often surprised when I point out that their self-judgments provide the very clues to their greatest gifts and genius!
i.e. the emotionally sensitive child that grew up in a family and culture that shamed them for it, is now the adult who is exquisitely attuned to other's needs and feeling states.
Once they learn how to set and maintain healthy boundaries, and realize that they matter and their needs count too, you have someone who is capable of creating deeply safe, relational spaces for people to express and heal themselves.
They are compassion in action, and truly do make the world a better place.
Or another common scenario I see are the creatives - the artists, and musicians - who bought into the belief that only the especially gifted ones get the lucky breaks, and that they couldn't possibly make a living doing what they loved.
Except when I ask them to name some people that are doing what they want to do - perhaps less talented than they - they can rattle off a whole list! The difference is the people they name didn't give up on their dreams so easily, and let their passion lead them, not their doubts and fears.
And then there's a big chunk of my clients, that have always known there is SO much more to life than doing whatever it takes to survive, and are here to expand and express themselves in alignment with their heart's deepest desires. But they haven't yet given themselves full permission to pursue them.
So the question I put to you is, 'What are you deciding is true (about you or the world) that disqualifies you from doing or having what you truly desire?"
Where are you still shrinking yourself to fit into someone else's version of what's possible for your life?
When you get really honest with yourself you'll see that your fear is not that you can't or shouldn't go for what you desire, it's actually the fear of what your life will look and feel like if you don't!
If you want to move past that, I've got you....reach out when you're ready to
So they're often surprised when I point out that their self-judgments provide the very clues to their greatest gifts and genius!
i.e. the emotionally sensitive child that grew up in a family and culture that shamed them for it, is now the adult who is exquisitely attuned to other's needs and feeling states.
Once they learn how to set and maintain healthy boundaries, and realize that they matter and their needs count too, you have someone who is capable of creating deeply safe, relational spaces for people to express and heal themselves.
They are compassion in action, and truly do make the world a better place.
Or another common scenario I see are the creatives - the artists, and musicians - who bought into the belief that only the especially gifted ones get the lucky breaks, and that they couldn't possibly make a living doing what they loved.
Except when I ask them to name some people that are doing what they want to do - perhaps less talented than they - they can rattle off a whole list! The difference is the people they name didn't give up on their dreams so easily, and let their passion lead them, not their doubts and fears.
And then there's a big chunk of my clients, that have always known there is SO much more to life than doing whatever it takes to survive, and are here to expand and express themselves in alignment with their heart's deepest desires. But they haven't yet given themselves full permission to pursue them.
So the question I put to you is, 'What are you deciding is true (about you or the world) that disqualifies you from doing or having what you truly desire?"
Where are you still shrinking yourself to fit into someone else's version of what's possible for your life?
When you get really honest with yourself you'll see that your fear is not that you can't or shouldn't go for what you desire, it's actually the fear of what your life will look and feel like if you don't!
If you want to move past that, I've got you....reach out when you're ready to
follow your heart.
