Doing the Same Things, Hoping for Different Results

On your journey through life it's likely that you're going to go 'round and around doing the same things hoping for different results. Groundhogs day, right?

The kicker is you're probably not going to understand why, but nonetheless you'll judge the hell out of yourself when it keeps happening.

Please don't do that.

It won't change a thing, will make you feel even worse, and likely lock the pattern in even deeper as you try to "fix" yourself.

There's a better way.

Understand that every behavior of yours has some value in terms of your survival. Even if it seems counter-productive from a rational perspective.

Whatever you do to maintain the status quo of what is known and familiar serves 1 or more of the 3 fundamental needs:

To feel loved, like you belong, or to feel safe.

And whatever you learned as a child about how to get that, is what you tend to keep doing because it worked!

But only from a little kid perspective.

Which is often not useful as an adult with more choice and agency.

When you give your younger you some new, upgraded ways of experiencing themselves and the world, then taking action in alignment with that version becomes obvious and natural.

The internal battle with yourself falls away.

The groundhog day experience of life stops, and you focus on what you'd love to create instead, and allow yourself have it!

That's when you realize your true nature and purpose, which is to create.

If you're done doing the same thing hoping for different results, let's connect about how to change that.