There's times when its perfect to "leap and the net will appear," and other times when you just gotta "back the F up!" because you're trying to force something to happen.

 

Pay attention to the energy behind whatever you're prompted to do, not just the outcome.

 

There's whole 'lotta magic that can happen when you learn to trust that big "YES!" feeling you get when you go for something that's unknown and yet feels 'oh so right' down to your bones!

 

But if you're trying to force an outcome, that's usually a sign you're motivated by fear.

 

And what that usually creates is MORE of what you don't want!

 

Eg; Wanting love and approval, so you people please and do for others, but its not reciprocated, because the truth is, people have their own needs and lives and can't always be there for you in the way you want, but yet you see it through the lens of not being enough or lovable.

 

The actions you take to get love, reinforce that it's not there for you.

 

This, my friends, is usually just a carryover from childhood, an adaptive strategy you took on to get your needs met then, but it's going to keep you stunted as an adult.

 

Everyone has these strategies, but they're mostly unconscious, automatic programs that run in the background of our lives, creating the same results over and over again.

 

You can't change them if you don't even they're there, or know what they are.

 

But when they're running, you'll try to influence others, or change the world around you instead.

 

Because that's what the strategy was created for in the first place....to be/do what you thought you needed to be or do, so that you'd feel loved, safe, and that you belonged.

 

But again, those strategies may have worked to a degree as a child, but there's SO MUCH more you can create when you start operating from full choice as an adult.

 

I take people through a powerful process where we uncover your core adaptive strategy so you can break free of how it caps your ability to create what you'd love.

 

It's a deep dive and unhooking of what's holding you back,

so you can have the life you truly desire and learn how to create it.

 

Which, you'll see, is just the flip side of this pattern! Its genius!

 

Intrigued? Reach out and we can explore whether this might be of help to you now.

 

You can book a free clarity call by DM'ing me for the link.

 

Don't keep waiting for things to change, you've got to choose it.